Why is it so important to be bonded to your dog? It leads to a happier, healthier life together. That bond typically develops through your life with your dog, as you play, train, exercise, and live together.
From eye contact to greetings, this is how you’ll know if your dog is bonded to you. When they’re attached to you, dogs:
- Make eye contact
- Check-in with you
- Are happy to see you
- Are relaxed with you
- Snuggle your stuff
- Listen and respond to you
- Seek out your affection
Now for the deeper dive!
1. They readily make eye contact
Eye contact is often the first thing learned in basic obedience classes because it helps dogs focus. In the world at large, eye contact can be seen as a challenge, but in loving relationships, it’s a sign of trust and love. Think about your own eye contact habits; if you’re nervous or intimidated by another person, you might have trouble looking them in the eye, but if you trust them and want to show respect, you’ll meet their gaze. It’s very similar for dogs.
2. They check in on walks and in new environments
Dogs who are bonded to their people tend to look at them a lot. This doesn’t mean they’re glued to your side, gazing upon your face 24/7. They might still tug like crazy on the leash if they spot a pigeon, but they’ll return to you when it flies away.
3. Their body language is calm and relaxed in your presence
I know, I just said that if your dog is super-excited to see you, it means they’re in love! However, a bonded dog is also a comfortable dog. After the initial burst of excitement at your arrival, your dog probably settles down.
These are the most common types of relaxed body language in your dog:
- A slightly open mouth, with a relaxed, lolling tongue
- Rolling over for a belly rub (this shows they trust you)
- Soft, relaxed facial expression
- Blinking eyes
- Tail wagging side to side
- A “bow” to invite and encourage play
A dog with relaxed body language that lays down and takes a nap by your side is showing you how much they trust you (and how much they like being close to you, another sign of a strong bond).
4. They carry your shoes around in their mouth
Dogs who are attached to their owners are also very attached to their scent and may snuggle up with their belongings—particularly extra-stinky ones like clothing and shoes. Think of it from a dog’s perspective: scent is one of their primary means of communication, and your belongings communicate home, attachment, and love.
Of course, clothes- and shoe-snuggling isn’t always a good thing. If your dog hoards your dirty laundry or destroys your favorite pair of slippers, they may be exhibiting signs of separation anxiety. Otherwise, take it as a compliment! And invest in a few dog hair cleanup tools— and long-lasting chews like naturally-shed antlers that might entice them away from the shoes.
5. They listen when you speak and come when you call
Responsiveness is one of the biggest signs that you and your dog have formed a strong bond. If your dog listens to you when you speak, and obeys the commands you give, it shows that they’re attached to you. Basic obedience training is a great way to strengthen your bond.
Recall, or coming when called, is one of the most important cues for your dog to respond to because it can keep her safe in potentially dangerous situations. But it’s also a great way to increase the bond between you two. Best Friends Animal Society suggests that you “make it a party” every time your dog comes when calls. No matter what they’re leaving behind, coming to you should be the best thing that happens to them all day!
6. They seek physical affection
Recent headlines suggest that dogs may not enjoy “hugs,” but that doesn’t mean they hate physical affection. In fact, it’s among the most important bonding activity you can engage in with your dog. If your dog seeks out pets, leans, snuggles, and even hugs, it’s a sure sign they’re bonded to you. And you can strengthen your bond by spending quality, one-on-one time with your dog every day, including lots of gentle pets.
Of course, some breeds are less affectionate than others. but they’ll demonstrate their bond with other signs listed above.
7. Ways to improve the bond
If you’ve read through this list and are still worried, fear not: there are concrete steps you can take to increase your bond with your dog. The easiest (and most fun) is to spend at least 30 minutes of focused, one-on-one time together each day. This doesn’t include walks, yard time, or watching TV together. Your bonding time should be active and focused.